All my peeps around here likely know that The Witch’s Book of Love is being released this January 21st, so, in continuation of my onslaught of witchy lovey-dovey blog posts – you get another one today.
Today’s post is a primer for finding love and bringing it into your life. While The Witch’s Book of Love will help you use tools (astrology, palmistry, numerology and witchcraft) to find that love, this post will give you the insight you need to really – I mean really – be ready for love.
So…what do you (yes you!!) need to do to allow love into your life??
Yep. Before you can love someone else you must first love yourself. This is surprisingly difficult for most people. How often do you criticize yourself in one day?? Pay attention and just keep a running tally for one day of how many times you say something negative or discouraging about yourself. Then STOP doing it.
Remember, your external reality is a reflection of your internal reality. This is metaphysics 101. So, if you want love in your external reality you first need love in your internal world. AKA you’ve got to love the sh*t out of yourself.
You may be saying to yourself – this is impossible – how am I supposed to love myself?? Let me tell you – this is not impossible. Employ the whole “fake it until you make it” scenario here. Tell yourself how bada** you are. Yes – compliment yourself on a daily basis – heck, an hourly basis. Every time you look into a mirror say something positive about how you look or how you are doing. Congratulate yourself on doing minor tasks. Tell yourself that you are amazing…because really, you are. Trust me – I’m a psychic – I know that you are.
Okay, now that we are on the road to loving ourselves, the next crucial step is to be yourself. Yep, be you. Also not an easy task.
From the time we are kids we are shaped and molded by our parents and our culture to live a certain way and behave a certain way. To not cause waves or “problems” for those around us. This can cause some individuals to shut down and not explore who they really are or be proud of who they truly are.
But, in order to find a love that will actually be lasting and a healthy relationship – you have got to be yourself and not put on a mask. You have got to be you.
How do you do this?? Find out who you are. Explore different areas or interests you have – and don’t be ashamed if you think they aren’t cool. Who cares in the long run. The more open and honest you are about yourself – the more you love yourself – the less other people’s opinions really matter.
So, go out and figure out who you are. Read lots of books on a variety of subjects – listen to different genres of music – watch different shows – go to different sporting events – try out anything that interests you – find yourself – then BE YOU.
Another VERY crucial part in attracting love into your life – you have got to LIVE your life. Yep, that special someone is not likely to manifest on the couch as you sit and binge watch your favorite show on Netflix for the tenth time. You have to actually leave the house…I know, not always an easy task, especially for us introverts out there.
But, if you really want to attract love into your life, you have to live your life. Do the things you like to do and you will be more likely to actually find someone who has a similar interest to yours. I am not saying that you need to spend your Friday night at a bar if you don’t drink – this will like find you someone who is not totally compatible with you. Instead, go to a concert of your favorite band or a movie you have been wanting to see.
Get out and live life – in its fullest. Then, even if a great love doesn’t show up – at least you have been living your life – right!
Now, these three steps I have given you may seem simple just reading the words – but they are difficult to comply with. I know – but trust me – you can do it! And then, remember to pre-order your copy of The Witch’s Book of Love to learn how to use different tools to manifest that love you desire!